Recognising what differences may mean
Issues here concern differences of multiple(s) from other
children and differences among the multiples.
Dim other
children and differences among the multiples.
Differences in results may:
(i) Confirm problems such as reading disability which
parents have been aware of but hoping would eventually disappear-
the "Don?t worry-they?ll grow out of it " comment
discussed in the Preschool section. Alternatively, many parents
may say, "At last", when the school takes seriously
what the parents have been saying to them for some time. The
Special Needs section deals with coming
to terms with disability in one or more multiples.
(ii) Confirm differences between the multiples. When
the exam is for such things as entry to a selective school or
the award of a scholarship or other prize, then differences
between multiples become very public. It is important to discuss
with the children beforehand just what the consequences
of differences in performance may be. Some parents consider
not taking-up the place or award if only one of the multiples
is successful. This is not fair on the one who does achieve.
It is equally unfair on the other multiple(s) as it puts them
under pressure - the brother or sister who they undoubtedly
know is scholastically better will not be able to take advantage
of this opportunity unless they too do extremely well. Such
exams are usually later in the primary school years and the
multiples are old enough to be able to understand the consequences
if not all succeed.
Sometimes it is worth discussing the situation with
the school in advance what their attitude would
be if one multiple just scraped into a place and the
other(s) just missed out. Of course the school must
also be fair to the other children who just missed out
as well. If the school is quite definite in saying there
would be no preferential treatment, then the family
can consider their options before, not after the assessment.
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