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Achieving independence from one's multiple(s)

Twins and higher multiples have identified ten key concerns at adolescence:

• developing your own individuality and a sense of your own strengths and vulnerabilities
• coping with comparisons by others - and educating the others not to do this
• dislike or denial of being a multiple and what to do if to do this
• dislike or denial of being a multiple and what to do if one multiple is positive and the other(s) negative about their status
• jealousy between multiples
• coping with differences between multiples in physical development, in academic and occupational success and in friendships and relationships
• the balancing act between dependency and a close, supportive friendship
• learning that multiples together attract attention, multiples apart need social skills to received attention
• parents who still want their offspring to be multiples first and young adults second
• outgrowing parental stereotypes
• expressing your individuality by doing the same as your other multiples